Classic Signs of Sexual Betrayal

1.    He is unaccountable for time away from home and how he spends his money

2.    He works late, travels often, and is difficult to reach

3.    He will not commit to regular arrival times

4.    He avoids answering his cell phone

5.    He seems distant, mentally preoccupied

6.    He spends a lot of time on the internet and or refuses to use a filtering service

7.    He watches television or uses the computer after you go to bed

8.    He misses sleep or gets up regularly in the middle of the night

9.    You have debts that he isn’t concerned about

10.You’ve found unusual receipts, phone numbers, phone bills, or credit charges

11.He has unpredictable moods, including anger and depression

12.He blames you for his unhappiness, anger and/or shortcomings

13.His sexual interest in you has wanes or increased dramatically

14.He does not want intimacy yet demands sexual acts that are unpleasant

15.He has grown emotionally distant from friends and family

16.He says you’re crazy, jealous, or have a vivid imagination

17.He demands certain sexual performances and gets upset when refused

18.You feel used, empty, during or after sex

19.You’ve regularly considered whether or not he is lying to you

Classic Signs of an Affair

1.   He spends less time with you than he used to…with explanations of work, business functions, a new hobby, or a sport

2.   He’s less affectionate

3.   He changes his looks, style, hair cologne, exercise habits

4.   He’s more short-tempered

5.   He’s defensive about his schedule

6.   He becomes private about his cell phone, computer, and finances

***referenced from The Healing Choice Guidebook, Susan Allen